Took me a while to get here, though.
To recognize that quote, above…
To cherish myself.
Just because I could.
I was interviewing someone recently about her orientation, and the way she felt so ease with others; and how she came to”be”. How she just sort of realized she could finally begin to love herself.
One day, I think she just simply came to realization as I did, that ‘sometimes’ it just takes too much to try to be someone else, and please everyone else around you.’
I don’t know that I have all the answers, but I am using this platform to make sure I have enough to say about relationships, and how to make sure you fit within them, and not exist FOR them. there’s a difference and in that you find greater fulfillment.
So, I want everyone to know: You are enough, Period.
And if someone else tries to make you think differently, then they are flat out wrong.
So you are enough, and I am enough. I think I had an awakening during my first marriage. I realized I was depressed all the time, because I couldn’t own up to who I REALLY WAS, and since I didn’t know who I was, how could I give a part of me, to someone else?
Not giving my best self to someone else, hurt. I mean, it just did.
And not being appreciated for the good I had inside of me, hurt, as well. So I decided to not ‘aid’ any more ( for lack of a better word…) in being in relationships in helping to destroy my authentic self.
Who was My Authentic Self ?
This woman who lived curled up inside of a “people pleasing body”… and she didn’t quite know it; ;who settled for less, because she was afraid to make decisions; and who was way too anxious an afraid to live with JOY… for way too long, …? No, that wasn’t really who I was – but back then , you couldn’t tell me that.
I realized she was beautiful, she was funny, she loved laughing, and smiling, she loved the outdoors, to hear birds sing, and she loved being touched hugged and cherished with affection. Except she didn’t know that in her soul and body that told er she wasn’t enough. In fact, I found out after several years of not being lovingly embraced, that one of my primary ways to be loved ; my language of love was: TOUCH.
Being held by my husband – just does something for me. If you don’t know what the languages of live are, and whether you are getting that need met, you really need to find out what yours is, and how to get that need met. And loving touch doesn’t always mean sex, is so important, either. Sometimes it’s a hand held, a smile and a warm embrace, and a cuddle.
“If your spouse’s primary love language is physical touch, nothing is more important than holding her as she cries.”~ Taken from the book by Dr. Gary Chapman The Five Love Languages
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You shall love them…